- Recognize patterns in your past relationships.
- Question if the person can allow for a kind, emotionally mature relationship.
- Consider if they could be your equal.
- Assess their capability of looking after you as you do them.
- Project where the situation might be in 2, 5, or 10 years.
- Evaluate their wisdom, stability, and goodness.
- Check if they can stop acting the child and meet you as fellow adults.
- Understand if their troubles allow them to engage with anyone else.
- Consider if their career could sometimes be put aside for your sake.
- Develop sensitivity to signs of emotional withholding, immaturity, trickiness, and stuckness.
- Look for love, not ecstatic torment, fascinating indifference, exhausting evasion, or bittersweet abandonment.
via Getting Better at Picking Lovers